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is honesty overrated and lies underrated?

i always believed that being honest is very very important, if not the MOST important aspect of a relationship. whether it's with a spouse, friend, family members, colleagues, etc.

i also understand how hard it is to realize you have made a mistake. and how hard it is to admit to it. and no one likes to admit it, saving face is such an important thing for most individuals anyway. still--- have you notice with lies, it almost ALWAYS eventually come out.

think, how much work and effort has to be used by someone that is trying to hide the lie or truth and cover up all the tracks. isn't it easier to just tell the truth. yes, whoever you lied to will be hurt no matter what (if you lied and depending on how serious it is); but because you were honest, there is a more likelihood for forgiveness and acceptance. if it's carried on and on, and discovered later, the person is still 'hurt' if not immensely more; at this later time... can it be as easily forgiven than if you had been honest and upfront about it at the beginning?????

perhaps the person is lying to keep a famiy together. in that case, could it be condoned? perhaps-- but when all comes to light, the people involved or that you've lied to will still be hurt. can the liar deal with all the hurt and sadness when it eventually happens? as a strong beleiver that the truth always prevails, seems like it's just a horrible thing for everyone involved. forgiveness is preached, but not always attainable, even by the sweetest of people. it's the hurt. and the fact that you were lied to.

for example if i was lied to by a friend because she/he did not want me to be mad at him or they are afraid what they did may have ruined our friendship. 1> if it's 'that serious' of an issue, just tell me the truth! 2> sure you can lie to my face now but say a year later i found out the truth; i will be more hurt and damaged by the prolonged lie, than if i was told earlier.

so the outcome of knowing earlier and knowing later will not change the 'lying' fact and the fact that i will be hurt. so which is better? now or later? i personally prefer now. or the lie just festers. and imagine all the lies that will be required just cover the first one. perhaps it wasn't that bad of a thing- but because it was kept under wraps, it will be considered a worse situation that it really is.

the reason i broach on this subject is because recently i've been lied to by a loved one. it was dramatic at first and we did accept a truce, and honesty was reached between us. so i chose to trust my loved one. he made promises and i believed him. he said he will never lie to me again. i believe him. i trust it was an honest mistake and he felt terrible about it. but because there will be more new situations following the actions he's made, we decided to face it together if more bad news was to come. we promised each other we were a team and we will face it together, regardless.

it did. and guess what? he chose to lie about it. tried to cover it up. instead of trying to deal with it together, he just tried to cover it up. totally broke my heart again. i'm mostly devastated because he broke his 'promise' that we will deal with it 'together' and took it into his own hands again. it hurts so much.

and because it was near impossible for him to cover-up the truth and facts, he finally admitted it. but not after he already made up a bunch of little lies. and at the very end of course he say's he is sorry. and that he will never lie to me again.

i want to cry so much but i can't because when i am sad, i scare supergirl and she cries with me.

so he promises he will never lie again. so? how much can i believe his words now. if it happens again, will he really let us face it together or will he lie again? i'm so scared now. scared because after the very first time, i chose to trust and believe him, but he's hurt me again. he says he lied to me, because he rather i never knew and be sad about it. but the fact was he promised it's something we will face together. he promised. so where is the honesty?

i have no one to turn to. and it hurts so much. don't cry don't cry don't cry don't cry dont' cry don't cry don't cry don't cry don't cry.

he needs to understand it's not about the original mistake he made anymore. it's the fact he broke his promise to me, and that he lied to me. that hurts the most.

rite aid holiday gift of savings is such a ...

... great incentive to shop. i'm having so much fun!

did not receive DECEMBER issue of ALL YOU

magazine! i was just waiting and waiting and it NEVER arrived. figure it might be late due to holiday mail. anyway, i received my JAN issue today!!! so of course i had to call customer service. did they even have to ask if i wanted a DEC issue or just extend my subcription! i want my DEC issue. =/ who knows when i will receive it and if all the coupons will have expired! grrr~

i still do not have a facebook account...

but hey, i am blogging here.

and i just signed on to twitter! just learning the ropes. but within my first week, i won a tweet sweep!! =) happy.

love this bag!

i just received this bag as a present and i love it! it's a good size and can be used as a diaper bag. the interior is awsome too, with lots of pockets! not to mention well made. i've been wanting a microfiber bag. much easier to clean and maintain. thanks ms. a for bestowing me with this lovely present!

i've noticed this brand before at a glance at macy's, but never paid much attention to it. it wasn't until i got this bag, did i do some research on it. it's apparently very popular everywhere and has quite a following of collectors. well, i'm just happy to have the bag! btw, it's tokidoki.

anyhow, she gave me the concerto punk print in carezza design, which is perfect .. for ME!! punk rocks.